After falling in love, he became her ATM, and he used to be happy to satisfy her material desires. Until one day, she found a bigger “gold mine”, so she once again found an excuse to deceive him with a handful of money, and then turned to others. For this reason, he was pained and puzzled -——
Time: July 7
Interviewee: Hu Feng (alias)
Recorded by: Yu Xiaoli
Chasing her is effortless
Zhang Rong (not her real name) and I met in QQ group. It was a group discussing Korean wave. Besides talking about stars and Korean dramas, the group also talked about other things. I run my own shop. I’m usually quite free. I often hang up QQ. I’m an active person in the group. During the chat, the group friends all know that I drive a foreign trade shop, have a good car, have a house in the urban area and the countryside, and have been to Korea twice. So many people envy me and add me as a good friend one after another. Zhang Rong is also one of them.
Zhang Rong is from Jiaxing. Because her boyfriend is also in Ningbo, she seldom attends group friend gatherings. But I don’t know from which time on, Zhang Rong’s figure began to appear frequently at parties. She told me that she had broken up with her boyfriend and told me a lot of sad memories between her and her boyfriend on and off.
Maybe it was Zhang Rong’s pitiful attitude when she was sad that inspired my sympathy. Later, at the party, I took more care of her. Gradually, I found that the eyes Zhang Rong looked at me had a special brilliance. Later, with the help of several enthusiastic group friends, I began to have further contact with Zhang Rong.
After several solo dates, I think Zhang Rong is a good girl. She is beautiful and lively. Although she is a little delicate sometimes, she is still cute in my eyes. I said to her directly: be my girlfriend. Unexpectedly, Zhang Rong didn’t twist at all as I imagined, so she nodded her head happily. On the contrary, I can’t believe it. In a word, I said goodbye to my single life and held a beautiful girlfriend in my hand. My excitement was completely written on my face.
On the first weekend after falling in love, we went to Hangzhou for a trip. I took Zhang Rong to the West Lake to take a cruise, to eat outside the building, to Wensan road to buy digital, and to buy a lot of clothes in Yintai. This is the first time that I have spent so much money for a girl, but I am very willing. Who makes her my girlfriend?
My friends are very powerful
After returning to Ningbo, Zhang Rong suddenly told me that she wanted to find a place to live, but the original house expired. What she meant was that she wanted to stay at my house for a while, because my house was a duplex room with five rooms on the upper and lower floors. After thinking about it, I think it’s too early to take her home. After all, my parents live with me. I’ve only been in love for a while, and I haven’t had time to tell them that it’s inappropriate for lengbuding to bring a girl home to live.
In order to take care of her conveniently, I rented a house near my home, paid the rent for three months, and helped Zhang Rong settle down. We each left a key. After that, I watched the store during the day and left it to the clerk at night. When Zhang Rong finished work, we went shopping, eating and watching movies together. Sometimes I also lived with her. I am obedient to Zhang Rong, and she also brings me a lot of happiness.
The days passed like water. A few months later, I got to know some of Zhang Rong’s better colleagues. One of them was Xiao Mei (not her real name) and the other was Xiao Feng (not her real name). I was especially close to Zhang Rong, so I naturally took them as friends.
Once, I chatted with Xiaomei, but it made me feel a little worried. Xiaomei even told me that she persuaded Zhang Rong to end her previous relationship. Xiaomei said with disdain that Zhang Rong’s former boyfriend had no future, no money, and no need to continue at all. With Zhang Rong’s appearance, it was more than enough to find a rich or a poor man. My heart is very uncomfortable, and the word “rich and young” makes me uncomfortable.
Do I belong to the kind mentioned by Zhang Rong and Xiao Mei? If she meets a real “rich young man” in the future, will she also dump me?
Xiao Mei’s snobbishness has greatly reduced my impression of her. I think her view of love will affect Zhang Rong’s judgment. I advise Zhang Rong to stay away from Xiaomei.
Always spend money like water
Because I was too distracted in love, I neglected to take care of my business for a period of time, resulting in losses for three consecutive months. But Zhang Rong’s expenses are still very large. In addition to her personal food, clothing and rent, she also often buys things for her family. Although I am a little beyond my means, I never show any embarrassment in front of Zhang Rong. Besides the factor of saving face, I don’t want to worry her.
However, after a while, it was Zhang Rong who worried me. She said that her parents were divorcing because her father’s investment failed, not only the small processing factory in the family closed down, but also more than 100000 debts. Those days, she often cried in front of me. I can do nothing but comfort Zhang Rong and ask her to persuade her parents to tide over this difficulty for the time being and earn money slowly.
Because I was busy turning around the losses, I spent less time with Zhang Rong next. Unexpectedly, Zhang Rong was very sensitive and began to think wildly, thinking that I began to dislike her because her family’s economic situation had taken a sharp turn for the worse. One day, she went back to Jiaxing without saying hello to me. Seeing her letter left in the rental room, I was shocked. I immediately called her to persuade her to come back. On the phone, I solemnly promised her that I would not change my heart and would always be with her. I will try my best to help her with her family’s debts.
In order to reassure Zhang Rong, as soon as she returned to Ningbo, I took her home to meet her parents, which was a formal recognition of her identity.
Zhang Rong’s departure made me more cautious about her care. If she didn’t want to go to work, I agreed to her resignation and gave her pocket money; Her brother wants to go to college, and I remit the tuition for the first year. Anyway, I’ll give her whatever she wants. Although we are not married, we live together like husband and wife. She can see clearly how much money I bring back every month.
Maybe Zhang Rong is really spoiled by me. Although her family’s economic conditions have plummeted, she still spends money like water. Even if she plays an online game, she can throw hundreds of dollars into it. If she has no money, she can take it directly from my pocket.
Several friends around me constantly remind me that I can’t be too used to my girlfriend. In their eyes, I seem to be raising Zhang Rong’s family. After being with her, I almost changed my lifestyle. In the past, I often went to bars, sang songs and traveled. Now, except for shopping with Zhang Rong, I hardly have outdoor life. My friend said that I was being cheap.
I admit, but I can’t change it, because I love Zhang Rong so much that I’m willing to do anything for her.
Turn to others
This year, due to poor management and the bad environment, my business is not as good as before. Probably because of this, my relationship with Zhang Rong has gradually changed.
After the new year, Zhang Rong said that her father wanted to reopen the shop and she wanted to go home to help. I let her go. Before I left, I gave her 5000 yuan to take back for temporary turnover. Unexpectedly, Zhang Rong did not come back after I went there. I called and texted, but she didn’t answer and didn’t reply. I was worried, so I asked her good friend Xiaofeng. Xiaofeng told me that Zhang Rong seemed to mean that she didn’t want to go back to Ningbo.
I was foolish at hearing this, so I quickly left my business and went to Jiaxing to find her. When I got to her downstairs, Zhang Rong came out to see me, but she didn’t let me go upstairs. Instead, she directly pulled me to talk outside the community. She said that her parents did not agree to our love. She asked me to return to Ningbo and other news. She persuaded her family to come back immediately.
I had to return to Ningbo alone. After that, we kept in touch on and off with our mobile phones. Occasionally, Zhang Rong said that she wanted to buy something to coax her mother, and I paid her card in time.
In May, Zhang Rong suddenly called me, saying that she felt too tired and didn’t want to fight for it. Let’s break up like this. I can’t believe it. I sent more than 100 texts in a day, urging her not to give up and to continue fighting with her parents. There were only a few replies from Zhang Rong, which expressed only one meaning: breaking up. Later, I didn’t even want to show my face, so I directly asked her aunt to persuade me to go back.
It was not until recently that I learned the truth from Xiaofeng. In fact, the real reason for breaking up is that Zhang Rong met a Jiaxing man who works in a public institution and has very good conditions at home. Zhang Rong hesitated and consulted her friends. Xiaomei naturally advised her to find someone with good conditions. She also said that I am a businessman, and my income is unstable. If I lose money one day, I will drink the breeze.
Unlike other people who have stable income and rich family background. I heard that the man also promised to help Zhang Rong’s family pay off their debts, which was directly recognized by her family. When I first went to Jiaxing, Zhang Rong had begun to associate with him, but he kept it from me.
All the changes have left me at a loss. Am I really as cheap as my friend said? My girlfriend threw herself into someone else’s arms, and I’m still foolishly remitting money to her. The loss of money and the emotional sacrifice of more than a year have only resulted in the end of one person’s wealth being emptied. Why on earth?
Oh, Zhang Rong is a typical money worshipper. It’s a pity that Hu Feng is a small gold mine and can’t stand her endless mining.
I always feel that just as fire can identify real gold, money can also identify the authenticity of love. Whether you are rich or poor, if a woman spends your money without restraint, hesitation and heartache, there is no doubt that the woman loves not you but your money. At least, she loves your money more than she loves you.
However, many men are dazzled. A leaf obscures the eye. They can’t always see through the heart of the woman who spent your money to buy beautiful clothes and packages. They just think that the bright smile on the woman’s face is open for your love. But I don’t know that when your money gradually inflated her selfish desire, she turned around and went to look for new gold mines.
Hu Feng should not feel how wronged you are. You are willing to spend the money for her. If you lose it, you can earn it back. As for Zhang Rong, do you think it’s a pity to lose her? If you really think so, you will fall in the same place.
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