Everyone needs to establish close relationships with himself and others. Working women can enhance confidence, love themselves more and release pressure by playing coquetry with themselves appropriately; Playing coquetry with the boss and colleagues can give each other face and strengthen interpersonal relations. Xiaobian recommends coquetry psychology to you to learn to love and be loved to a greater extent.
weak pain therapy
In terms of emotional relationships, the most addictive way to play is to use “pain”, which is also the most commonly used spoiled trick for men and women to repair relationships. A sentence such as “my heart is still hurting”, “the hand hurt for you is still hurting”, and so on, the pitiful look, the silent appeal I still feel sorry for, how can it not teach people to resist and compromise for you! The surface information of pain is static injury, but behind it, it implies that “I am weak” is an active soft attack, and the hidden instruction is: “you should spoil me”. With pain as the advance, the circuitous tension of the weak infects the subconscious of the other party, and the effect is as strong as hypnosis.
Xu Zhimo has a spoiled classic: “don’t twist me, it hurts.”. Don’t underestimate this kind of sarcophagus. The more sarcophagus a couple has, the more useful it is. The more old-fashioned it is, the more emotional it is. The way to recover lost land without losing too much face is to act like a spoiled child. That is the best mediation vacancy after the conflict between two egos. It shifts the strong and weak roles, but saves each other’s face.
A “I’m sick and I’m in pain” reminds the other party of his concern and restores the broken relationship. As long as it’s harmless, the couple’s private flirtatious coquetry is usually the most effective cooling medicine. A man’s use of this trick to save the woman’s heart is by no means inferior to that of a woman. As long as men show a slight weakness, women’s motherhood will start again. With a feminine call for favor, both men and women will surrender. It’s better than continuing to torture. It’s the emotional psychology used in China to make progress by retreating.
know how to place face and authority
People’s biggest obsession is self, that is, the problem of face. People who are clever at coquetry are the best at maintaining face and communication psychology.
Face is the biggest conflict in work. To save face, everything can be discussed. The customer is happy, the boss has face, and all contradictions, conflicts and personal problems are easy to coordinate. Spreading smart charm in the workplace can create a win-win situation: one is to control oneself, reduce contradictions and aggression, and the other is to confirm power and position, and win authorization and trust.
Women with insufficient self-confidence and too hard personality are targeted by bosses and colleagues. The reason is that they are too strong, do not give face, and lack the lubricant to polish relationships. Properly adjust your psychology, make a fuss in a way that does not hurt your self-esteem and does not lose your elegance, give him the highest and leave yourself the most favorable, and intelligently distance yourself from the height of power. Only in this way can you have more space to fight for and express. This is practical communication space science: leave more room and give more face.
Return to the ignorance of expecting to be taught. Your position becomes lower, and the other side lowers its guard accordingly. The office is a closed place for power struggle. Only when it can maintain the face and authority of others and has a good working atmosphere can it be conducive to climbing up. Stabilize your emotions, maintain your state, reduce your self-protection mechanism, soften the other party’s self, change the magnetic field of the exchange wave, make you relaxed, stop criticizing you, and finally easily gain recognition and trust. Bingo！ You won the softest battle.
learn to play coquetry with yourself
In the final analysis, the highest level of coquetry is actually not outward investment, but self opposition. The first thing to reverse is your role frame and release yourself from pressure. The highest realm of improving psychology is self-treatment, which is also the most thorough and effective treatment attitude. The most comfortable state of life is self-identity and satisfaction. To do this, we need to improve our EQ, and self indulgence is one of the steps.
We think too much and enjoy too little every day. We need to regain the chemical effect of being cared for in childhood and flirting with each other between lovers, so as to relieve depression and uneasiness. It’s too passive to wait for others to comfort you. Why not spoil yourself first? Every day, he would make himself happy like a child, make faces in the mirror, say sweet words, and tempt self pity and care. Increase self love ability and depression resistance, and make yourself the most reliable and approachable spiritual partner.
Everyone needs to establish a close relationship with himself and strengthen the motive force of self love. It is difficult to accept the way of preaching and ordering. Soft coquetry is a positive role-playing method, which reduces the pressure brought by inertial values, comforts oneself, and compensates for and satisfies the “desire and mentality of being spoiled”.
conclusion: only when you know self love can you know how to receive love and live comfortably. The greatest significance of being coquettish to mental health is to improve interpersonal and self-communication relations. It is harmless to relax and forget your worries.
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