Are you familiar with the following situations? A girl met someone who met her ideal partner standard: he was good, humorous and charming. She felt that he was her prince charming, so she began to devote herself to love, gave everything for him, and began to imagine the future between them. She dreams of a romantic wedding, imagines the children in the future and their happy life in the future, and imagines the scene of them growing old together. Unexpectedly, one day he suddenly said, “I’m still not sure that you are my future.” In this way, all the good wishes came to an abrupt end, and the girl was heartbroken.
if you live in an ideal, you are doomed to lose it.
What exactly happened? In the system of Mars and Venus, we call this situation “living in an ideal”. This phenomenon occurs in both men and women, and is more common in women. When a woman is infatuated with a man, it is easy to believe that he will bring her happiness, and this usually happens before the man can prove that he is worthy of her pay. Once a woman firmly believes that she will get everything she needs from a man, she will entrust herself to him and devote herself to love, which usually happens before the relationship really starts to develop. Instead of accepting what men give and making appropriate responses, she takes the initiative to care for men in the hope of getting more love from men. Unfortunately, this often leads to men’s interest declining instead of increasing, and finally the scene at the end of the story occurs.
only by following the five stages of dating can you find your true soul mate
Why do such examples happen again and again to those who deserve happiness? Is it wrong to pursue happiness according to your own wishes?
An important reason for this phenomenon is that many women skip the uncertain stage of dating (in the Mars Venus system, dating has five stages: attraction, uncertainty, exclusivity, intimacy and engagement). They met a man who thought they liked him very much and wanted to fall in love with him, but never asked themselves “can he really give me happiness? Does he really meet all my requirements for soul mate?”. They immediately began to think: “I really like him. How can I make him happy and make him like me more?” So she quickly jumped over the first two stages of the date and directly jumped to the third stage. When a woman jumps directly to the third stage of dating – the exclusive stage, but a man still stays in the uncertain stage, he may not be able to bear her active contribution and feel that he can’t give her corresponding return. So before the woman realized any sign, in order to avoid causing greater harm to her, he had decided to break up.
return to reality and create a happy future for yourself
Fantasizing about the future is always pleasant, but as long as you clearly realize that it is only a fantasy, it will not bring you any harm. Reality is every moment of the moment. Now we must return to reality and take some time to look at this relationship from a real perspective. Let the uncertain stage unfold slowly and always remain rational, so that we can have the opportunity to judge whether this relationship can really meet our needs. If a handsome young man was very committed two weeks ago, but now his words and deeds seem to be inconsistent, then leave him bravely! There are many fish in the sea. After fully experiencing the uncertain stage of dating, we can better live in reality rather than in ideal, which will also create a happier future for ourselves!
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