1. Duplicity
When we are friends, the setting of identity and role determines that the relationship between men and women is relatively simple and transparent. We can find suitable ways to get along with each other whether we are straightforward or implicit.
However, once transformed into a lovers’ relationship, the intimate distance between two people will expose or even amplify many problems caused by gender and personality. For example, some people will hurt each other because of their outspokenness, but they don’t know it. Some people will worry about their gains and losses in love, be timid in speaking, and be duplicitous.
In love, many people say that the most important thing is to be “Frank”. In fact, the meaning of confession is not to say everything, including many offensive words that will cause profound harm to the other party. The “confession” between husband and wife and lovers actually refers to the “confession” that is considered in consideration of each other’s mood and from the other’s perspective without hurting each other’s feelings.
Editor’s advice: once encountering emotions, many people will feel that they are no longer the relaxed and unrestrained self they were before. Sometimes I think twice before I act. Sometimes I have to think for a long time before I speak. I even think “it’s so hard to be myself”.
In fact, feelings are the sparks of two people’s collision. Duplicity is also one of the chemical changes produced by this collision.
Be yourself freely and continue to be yourself after two people are together. Of course, the latter is more difficult and skilled.
Duplicity is not a bad thing. It means that you learn to think about each other in love, learn to respect each other, learn to slowly accept the existence of another person in your own world, and you begin to grow up and mature, and learn to be responsible for two people.
2. Uncontrolled jealousy
Women are sensitive because of what they get, afraid of losing their loved ones, and are very vigilant and careful about all small details. Such sensitivity can make girls very emotional. People of the same sex may also overreact to the threats they pose to themselves. Such emotions are actually controllable, and thoughts can change emotions and behaviors. Do you have such small emotions?
Editor’s Tip: jealousy is a double-edged sword, which helps you find clues in advance and is easy to suspect without reason.
If you are more confident in yourself and trust him, it may make your mood and love more relaxed.
You won’t be completely happy if you are full of jealousy. It’s better to loosen the rope for yourself and don’t let jealousy affect you to enjoy the sweetness of love.
3. Like to experience the feeling of being nervous
I often ask unreasonable questions to embarrass my husband, such as the assumption that “if your mother and I fall into the water, who will you save first?”. If he really only saves you, will he have any scruples about his kindness and character? This left him in a dilemma as to what to do.
Editor’s advice: to know whether he is the most important in TA’s heart, the key is not whether he can cope with your difficult problems, but whether he can take care of your feelings in life.
True love lies in details.
Asking for a sense of security can only make you more passive. The best way is to have a strong heart and a sense of security.
4. Sweet talk
I expect my boyfriend to show the world how much he loves you and how happy you are. Hearing his sweet words is the most beautiful music. If he happens to be a clumsy person who is not good at expressing himself, do you think that he and the love he has become boring?
Editor’s advice: not all boys can put their hearts on their mouths and say sweet words. For some people, they are more willing to express themselves through action.
Instead of improving his poor words, it is better to learn to understand his silent good intentions, and the romance without fancy is more pure.
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