The only unchanging truth in the world is change. If it is reflected in women, the difference from before marriage to after marriage can show how great the change is. There are changes in women’s psychology before and after marriage. Many people will say to their wives, you were not like this before marriage. Why are you like this now? Thus, husband and wife contradictions occur. Now let’s analyze it, so that husbands can better understand their wives’ psychological changes and understand their wives, and women can understand themselves and ease the contradictions between husband and wife.
post marital inferiority complex and pre marital self-esteem
Although men and women are becoming more and more equal in modern society, there are still many places where inequality between men and women is manifested. Especially in China, there are cases where a wife is valued by her husband and a mother is valued by her son. Women are more likely to have an inferiority complex because they can not compete with men in terms of economic and social status. Moreover, before marriage, a woman is an independent personality, but after marriage, she has to rely on her husband, which makes her wife feel inferior to her husband.
We suggest that husbands should understand and respect their wives so that they can build or preserve their self-esteem. For example, when she is busy with household chores, you can do household chores with her. When your wife pours tea and delivers water for you, you can say thank you, so that your wife can feel that you respect her and are your wife, not a domestic nanny.
women’s nostalgia after marriage
Many husbands may not remember their wives’ birthdays and marriage remembrance days due to work reasons, life pressures and other practical problems, but women are different, and their emotions are very delicate, so they will remember them clearly, and they will feel that such days are very important, because they do have great significance, so I hope you can remember these commemorative days.
If possible, you can prepare a surprise gift for her; When you wake up in the morning, you can give her a kiss; If you are out of town, you should also send a gift and make a phone call to tell her that you have not forgotten this special day.
independence before marriage and dependence after marriage
Women are very independent before marriage. They will buy clothes and things they like; However, after marriage, they will have a dependency on their husbands and ask for their opinions, hoping that their husbands can affirm and praise their wives’ behavior, which will make their wives feel happy,
If your wife buys a favorite dress or something she likes, when asking for your opinion, you can confirm it in time and express your satisfaction with her behavior. In this way, your wife can feel your love for her.
nagging psychology after marriage
We know that no matter who is unhappy, she always tells the people she trusts, such as her husband, wife, parents and friends. If you talk too much or repeat a topic all the time, it will become nagging.
In fact, psychology believes that nagging is a good way to vent one’s psychological pressure and relieve one’s pent up emotions. If we keep bad emotions in our minds, it is easy to produce psychological obstacles such as anxiety and depression. However, many friends or family members will feel bored, resulting in quarrels and contradictions.
We suggest you listen more patiently, and then express your opinions, so as to better solve women’s nagging psychology.
Self centeredness before marriage and family centeredness after marriage
Before marriage, a woman loves a man to accompany her to dinner, go shopping and go to the park. If she is unhappy, she will play the lady’s temper, and if she is unhappy, she will ignore people for two or three days. But once a woman gets married, her innocent romance is pulled back to reality by life, and the former nobility becomes plain. After work, I buy vegetables and cook, do a weekend cleaning, buy daily necessities, make tea and warm wine for men; He took the children to learn piano and English, accompanied the children to read and paint, and took care of all the family affairs without complaint.
quarreling psychology
If a husband and wife get along for a long time, their shortcomings are easier to be exposed than their advantages, and beauty is not in the eyes of the beholder. As the saying goes, teeth and tongue will fight. The best way at this time. Bite your lips and be patient. I especially hope my husband will suffer more.
Once when the couple quarreled, she threw a basin of water on her husband’s head. Unexpectedly, he said: I had expected it to rain after the thunder. Then he walked out with a laugh. Afterwards, she regretted it and hurried to clean the room. Patience and humor are the best medicine for eliminating quarrels between husband and wife. Remember, don’t quarrel, let alone fight. If you start, it will be difficult to clean up in the future.
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