A large survey proved that 65.73% of the cohabitation requests were put forward by boys first, and nearly 20% of girls were completely at a loss or chose to aggrieve their own wishes to cater to “him” when they asked for cohabitation. Cohabitation before marriage has its advantages and disadvantages. This article does not comment on it. It only reminds unmarried girls who are going to cohabit. Before you decide to cohabit with a boy, you should first recognize the major pitfalls of cohabitation, and then consider whether it is suitable to cohabit with him. After all, cohabitation is a serious matter.
Cohabitation is becoming more and more common. At present, no official statistics can explain how many people live together in China. For those who enjoy it, cohabitation is a paradise, but for those who suffer deeply, it is a hell. The only thing that can be sure is that cohabitation, which is popular all over the world, is the most vulnerable gender relationship.
sex
I don’t know how many people live together to solve sexual problems. I guess that sex is not the first factor for a girl to decide to live together. But many girls still simply believe that sex is indeed a weapon that can tie men down. When a man starts to live together, he may be happy that he can lose his soul at any time, but within three months, the sexual life of cohabitation will usually be more boring than that of living apart, and then he will suspect that it is a foolish idea to accept cohabitation.
Is this situation caused by frequent use and reduced intensity? “If you do the same thing for a long time, you will be bored”. This is not all the reason, but more from all kinds of minor defects exposed in each other’s life. For example, he eats too loudly and drinks soup like a pig… Unconsciously, you will find that you, who were originally passionate, have begun to degenerate into a “asexual family”.
money
When you first started dating, of course, you righteously asked him to cover all the expenses, but when you decided to live together, the expenses necessary for living together were definitely not something that he, a young man who just entered society, could afford. One day he would open your wallet and ask you to bear the crystal vase. From then on, he would list the details of family bills. Of course, there is no way to solve this problem, such as adopting the AA system within the family.
In fact, this seemingly fair way can not solve the problem well, and your arguments will not be less. For example, in summer, someone turns on the air conditioner all night or someone keeps on calling for a long time. Soon, the equality of the AA system will collapse.
In order to solve this problem thoroughly, it is necessary to make slanderous remarks about living together. It is best to turn in a part of the family fund every month according to each person’s income ratio and consumption habits. Other expenses, regardless of their size, are accounted for one by one and settled at the end of the month.
Privacy
When you didn’t live together, he received a call from the opposite sex. You expressed curiosity, and maybe he thought you were cute. When you go to his bachelor dormitory, you won’t be strongly condemned by him if you look through his small drawer. However, when you live together, if you monitor his phone and whereabouts and use your mobile phone to locate and inquire about him at any time, you may be scolded by him as a small bellied chicken. Over time, both sides will be tortured by this kind of paranoia to collapse.
Cohabitation is a very intimate act, but both parties should still respect each other’s privacy. There is always a corner in one’s heart that is unwilling to open to anyone. For example, you enjoy full body hair removal naked. He likes to observe his innermost tooth in the mirror for a long time.
When you were a child, your mother told you to put two socks in the second compartment of the drawer as a ball, but he thought you were completely idiotic; As soon as he finished eating, he would wash the dishes, but he refused to wash them after reading the sports news. Finally, even after the evening news was finished, he still didn’t want to wash them. “Life is meaningless because of a woman like you.” But why doesn’t he think it’s pointless to pack his underwear when he goes to bed and has sex?
housework
How much housework does a family have? Cleaning the table, washing clothes, feeding the cat and cleaning the feces, cooking, washing dishes, washing the toilet, cleaning the closet, taking out the garbage… When you live alone, you will find that cleaning the room is a fun way to pass the time. But when you live with him, you will find that you are a monster in his eyes.
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