If your boyfriend has a sexual relationship with you and that girl at the same time, you should be vigilant at this time to see who he loves and who he wants to choose? You can’t “shine” on both sides of him carelessly to prevent him from treating you only as a sexual vent. If he is really just playing with you, leave him resolutely.
My boyfriend and I have been in love for many years. We left our hometown together and went to the big city to do business. But soon after he entered the city, he had a new girlfriend. I asked him to make the final choice between me and that girl. He said he still loved me, and that girl was just an ordinary friend. I offered to break up, but he refused. Excuse me, what should I do if I “step on two boats” like him?
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It is not reprehensible that lovers have heterosexual friends outside of you. Because the wide range of gender exchanges (non marital and non romantic) is the inevitable outcome of the transformation from closed small-scale peasant production to open socialized large-scale production. No one can stop it.
In fact, non marital and non romantic relationships between heterosexuals are not all monsters. Based on the psychological differences between the two sexes, emotionally complementing and mutually pleasing is called friendship; Based on the physiological differences between the two sexes, they give and use each other’s sexual organs, which is called lovers; Based on or beyond the above two relationships, mutual assistance and mutual benefit in social affairs is the so-called sexual utility.
Love is the preparatory stage of marriage, and the process also includes such three aspects. Between lovers, there is both emotional cohesion and sexual attraction, as well as common practical interests. However, non marital and non heterosexual heterosexual exchanges are generally limited to the above-mentioned one or three fields, namely friendship or utility. If you are not married, but have sexual transcendence, it is possible to evolve one or both extramarital affairs; If you are not in love, do not want to get married, but also have sex, it is more likely to turn into unmarried cohabitation or the so-called “one night stand” of irresponsibility to each other. All these are beyond the reasonable scope of heterosexual friends, and we should naturally oppose them.
Therefore, in the face of your lover’s heterosexual friends, you should calmly analyze what kind of relationship field the girl and your boyfriend are in? If he and she do not contain sexual content, then there is no need to face the enemy like a giant. Even if he and she have some feelings for each other, it won’t affect the overall situation. You just need to make yourself firm in your belief, be patient and preconceived, so as to create a fait accompli that you are already a “legal” lover. Then, you will publicly appear in front of your lover’s female friends in this capacity, so that they can weigh your weight and understand your status. In a word: take yourself as your master! In this way, it is difficult for anyone to take away the man in your heart. If you don’t believe it, you can try it!
However, if your boyfriend has a sexual relationship with you and that girl at the same time, you should be vigilant at this time to see who he loves and who he wants to choose? You can’t “shine” on both sides of him carelessly to prevent him from treating you only as a sexual vent. If he really just plays with you, then resolutely leave him and find your true love again.
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