myth 1: I married him, not his family
Many women have encountered such a problem: although they know something about his family when they are in love, they do not pay attention to it. They think that it is him who is married, but not his family. Therefore, they have the idea that his family has nothing to do with me.
This view seems quite reasonable, but you should know that a person’s life is always marked by his growth, and family habits are the habits of a person’s subconscious life. The habits he formed from childhood are hard to change in his life.
Therefore, to marry a person is not to marry him, but to marry his growth track and all of him.
Myth 2: he loves and pampers me so much that he will accept my transformation after marriage
when two people with different growth environments, different thinking and different living habits live together, there will inevitably be contradictions due to many details. Although these contradictions are trivial matters, they often consume the tolerance of marriage most. At the same time, his insistence on details reflects his stubbornness in ideas.
Some female friends don’t understand this, but take all kinds of methods to reform their husbands, so men and women begin to fight against each other, and the home becomes a battlefield without gunpowder smoke. In the end, women often lose the battle with no alternative.
At this time, women know that if they want to transform a man, it is really difficult to go to heaven! In the face of futile transformation, women understand that whether a man accepts transformation has nothing to do with love or not, but with his life trajectory and habits. Therefore, when you marry him, you must know where he comes from. We should extend our appreciation from him to his origin, that is, his family background. From there, you can see the present continuous tense and the future development tense of his marriage.
myth 3: since we are married, our husband should belong to our small family
Be clear that your family is not your private property. It belongs not only to your small family, but also to his parents, relatives and friends. Therefore, his heart must be given to them. Not only that, but your love must also extend to them with him.
Therefore, when you fall in love with a man and want to marry him, you must be mentally prepared. You are not only marrying him, but also his living habits, family background and social background. Be clear that the man you are facing is not an individual, but a group of people behind his family environment and social contacts.
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