Many girls feel that now both sides are in love, and they can’t leave each other, so they are very relieved. But who knows, the longer you love, the less a man wants to marry you. Why? Let’s have a look.
1. fear marriage
A man who has been in love for a long time is still unwilling to marry you. It is not because he does not love you enough. It may be because he has a fear of marriage and is not prepared to enter marriage.
In modern society, the divorce rate is rising rapidly, and people no longer trust marriage. In the past, I thought that marriage could last long and that I could always have the other side by my side. But now all kinds of temptations are everywhere, and neither men nor women can resist the temptation to cheat. Sometimes when a man sees his friends get married and leave, he starts to fear marriage.
2. Not well prepared
Don’t think a man will be excited when you suddenly say that you are going to get married. Your sudden remark is like a sudden attack on a man. Love is not the same as marriage. If a man wants to get married, you should give him enough mental preparation and not think of surprise. Otherwise, men will be easily scared away by you.
Before you propose to marry him, you might as well give him more time to prepare mentally. For example, you can often mention some happiness after marriage around him, give him a hint, and find out whether he is ready to marry.
3. Fear of commitment
Don’t think that men are brave enough. In fact, men are cowards. Many men are afraid of commitment because they are afraid to be responsible for their commitments. And cells that do not want to be responsible are basically the same as male hormones, rooted in male genes. The difference is that some men have more and some men have less.
Marriage means commitment. It means that you should treat this person well, treat her well, and stay with her all your life. This commitment is too long-term, like a shackle, which binds him. Men don’t want to spend their whole lives so quickly.
4. Afraid to change your life style
People are not willing to change their accustomed lifestyle. If you don’t understand, look at the colleagues around you who complain about their work every day but still haven’t changed jobs. Because they have been used to it for many years, it takes a certain time to readjust if they suddenly change, and many people do not want to change their life patterns casually.
Marriage means that these two people want to live together, and it is more likely that they will live together as a family. The problems of mother-in-law, daughter-in-law, private life and so on came one after another. You have to adapt to each other’s bad habits. It seems that everything in love is beautiful, but not necessarily after marriage. If a man has decided to change his life style, he is ready to get married.
5. I don’t want to give up the whole forest.
Many men are fickle. They can have many girlfriends and sexual partners, but only one wife. Many men are not willing to let him give up the whole forest and enter the tomb of marriage. Although not many men like three wives and four concubines, it is an indisputable fact that marriage is tantamount to giving up the right to choose. If it were you, there are many boutiques in the whole street. Would you like to enter only one of them in your life?
So a man would rather bear you alone than the whole forest.
6. Too much pressure
Love is a matter for two people. You can go out every day to have a big meal, you can go out every night to be crazy, you can be a moonlight clan… Marriage is a matter for two families. When you are in love, you don’t look at your family status or your savings, but only your feelings. When you feel right, you will be together. But marriage is different. You may pay more attention to when the two sides are suitable for each other and when they are suitable for being your wife.
You don’t have to bear too much in love, but it’s different after marriage. After marriage, you have to shoulder the responsibility of the whole family. Now most of the post-80s generation are only children, and you two have to shoulder the heavy responsibility of supporting four elderly people. This is a heavy burden, and the pressure is too great.
7. I don’t love you
If the above are not the reasons why your boyfriend is not willing to marry you, then there is only one, that is, he doesn’t love you at all.
People’s sense of responsibility is getting lower and lower. In the past, they are like a laughingstock. Anyone who says so represents old-fashioned. If a man loves you enough, he will never escape. He will be more nervous than you, hoping to bring you into the palace of marriage and make you his only one. If he loves you enough, he will take all the responsibilities and love you all his life.
Please don’t evade this topic. Nowadays, many men take a playful attitude towards relationships and have no intention of getting married at all. If you find that your man is such a mixed devil, I advise you to break up early and find your own happiness. Although such a choice is painful, it is more reliable than wasting one’s youth.
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