Netizens confided: sister brother love is nothing more than that the woman in love is older than the man, and it looks like a sister with a brother. Sociologists say that “elder sister” and “younger brother” fall in love, which is a rebellion against tradition, because the marriage and love pattern of men being big and women being small has been deeply rooted in society. This kind of love will be more opposed and hindered.
Sociologists say that “elder sister” and “younger brother” fall in love, which is a rebellion against tradition, because the marriage and love pattern of men being big and women being small has been deeply rooted in society. This kind of love will be more opposed and hindered.
Psychologists say that sister brother love is women’s “maternal overflow” and men’s “Oedipus complex”, which can be summarized as that at the beginning of love, sister and brother mistook other feelings for love.
But “sister and brother” who are deeply involved in love don’t care whether the love between sister and brother is rebellious or not, “hitting mandarin ducks with a stick” is the biggest rebellion. They are more lazy to care what is the reason for falling in love with each other. Love should not be mature or childish. “In the world, only love and cough can’t be covered up”. In their view, sister brother love is also love, and there is no need to cover it up. Neither of us will think too much about the result.
Love really does not need to be covered up, but the love we expect is a long-term emotional sustenance, not a short-lived passion. More and more netizens have written to prove that sister brother love is often just a temporary passion, but the results are not satisfactory.
External factors, of course, are that the real society still can’t accommodate sister brother love, and the traditional “male big female small” marriage and love model is still the mainstream.
Speaking of this, some people will think, you are wrong. I have no problem with sister brother love? The sisters around me also don’t have much opinions on this. You can accept it because you haven’t really experienced it. Once you experience it, the eyes around you will become different. It must be your parents who intervene and oppose first. In fact, it doesn’t matter how big this traditional force is. What matters is how brave you and him are, and how strong they can withstand pressure, controversy and opposition.
Internal factors have their own reasons and the other’s. But the root of the problem is the age gap between “sister and brother”.
Generally speaking, this age does not refer to physical age, but psychological age. If a man’s physical age is young, but his psychological age is mature, then the problem is not big. But the fact is that women of the same biological age are often more mature than men, not to mention how old are women older than men?
When boys were still playing basketball on the playground, girls of the same age had imagined countless prince charming; When boys have feelings for the opposite sex, girls of the same age have thought of marrying and giving birth; When men of the same age begin to plan to get married, women may have already learned the art of keeping their husbands.
Therefore, when falling in love with a man younger than himself, it is inevitable to meet a man who is also more green psychologically. The longer the time, the more naive and naive the young man will be exposed. How can a woman accept such an immature “younger brother” psychologically?
Men are immature. In fact, they are not as easy to deal with as women imagine. A little man who does not know how to take care of himself has never experienced many things, which will make you become an old woman unconsciously, always caring and worrying about everything; A little man who has tasted love for the first time simply does not know how to live and how to love a woman; A little man with weak economic strength should take money from your bag from time to time, but you should pretend to be willing to spend it for him, so that he can spend it with ease; A little man who has not made enough noise and fun can walk away without hesitation when he sees a beautiful girl, but you are far less “smart” than him.
The most important thing is that when the younger brother’s career is unstable and his economic strength is insufficient, the younger sister’s heart has tended to be peaceful. She wants a stable marriage, a husband to rely on and a comfortable home more. My brother can’t give me these. Men think that women are willing to wait a few more years for themselves, but women really can’t afford to wait.
Therefore, women who have not yet chosen sister brother love should pay attention that the long-term love between sister and brother is not only determined by men, but they need to pay more. As a “sister”, you can’t expect too much from “brother”.
Moreover, men who choose to fall in love with younger brothers and sisters want to be taken care of and cared for by women. They also want women to be as full as mothers, and they need experienced women to help them solve problems. The immature behavior of little men makes you have to have more and prepare more. When your face grows older and your little man matures, will he abandon you? You might as well ask yourself: can I keep my charm and make him obsessed?
If you just love him so much that you can’t extricate yourself from it and are at a loss what to do, then you don’t have to worry too much. In the face of all kinds of difficulties, “the army will block it, and the water will cover it”.
In the face of questions from family and friends, the best solution is to prove how sweet your love is with actions, so that others can see that although you are different in age, you are mentally close. You must make up for the immaturity of little men and the temptations of the outside world with your own wisdom and maturity – tolerance, understanding, patience and scheming.
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