Cohabitation, which is deeper than dating and shallower than marriage, is basically not protected by law and was even considered immoral in the past. However, the younger generation now thinks that it is foolish not to live together for a period of time before marriage. They do not want to repeat the mistakes of the previous generation, and marry in a hurry but end up in divorce. Therefore, many people think that cohabitation is just a useful means to avoid unhappy marriage and divorce. However, the fact is not as people wish. Many men and women did not enter the palace of marriage after cohabiting, but ended up breaking up.
People gradually think that men choose to cohabit just to make it more convenient for them to live as husband and wife with women, and will choose to abandon them after they get the woman. Therefore, cohabitation is also considered to be an irresponsible practice for love, which is rejected by many people.
A recent study shows that the earlier you cohabit before marriage, the faster you divorce after marriage. What is the necessary connection during this period? Let’s have a look.
men’s playfulness is not lost.
I remember Mao Feng said a sentence after his marriage in the beautiful times of his daughter-in-law, “how can I feel like I haven’t had enough fun yet?” so he chose to evaporate on the second day after his marriage and ran away. At that time, he was 26 years old. This is a very good case, which proves that men have a very heavy playfulness. For men, love is a game for two people. After they are tired of playing the game, men will choose marriage to end their free era and enter the siege.
The man who can choose to cohabit the earlier before marriage proves that he is still an immature man with a playful heart. If he doesn’t take a playful attitude, he will think carefully before cohabiting and won’t easily choose to cohabit so early. And marriage needs a mature man to last long.
Marriage is higher than love, because it represents a responsibility, a responsibility to the lover and the family, and an immature man focuses on himself. Whether he is happy or not is the most important. Therefore, the earlier a man cohabits before marriage, the less he will change after marriage. He will still go his own way. The sooner he divorces, the less surprising it will be.
tired of marriage life
Maybe you will say how can you get tired of marriage just after you get married? Because cohabitation is a married life, there is a saying that cohabitation and marriage are the same, but there is only one more certificate for marriage.
They say that it is easy to love but difficult to get along with. Cohabitation is not like love. When you are in love, you show your beautiful side to each other, but cohabitation will face many problems. All your shortcomings will be exposed in front of each other. You have to bear household chores, family expenses, personal privacy and so on. These problems are enough to break up cohabitation.
People will have a freshness period when they treat everything. When the freshness passes, people will be tired, let alone live together. After marriage, there is also a seven-year itch. The earlier people cohabit, the sooner they will get married, so there will be nothing new after marriage, and the sooner they will divorce.
The men and women who choose to cohabit have less traditional ideas about marriage and divorce, and do not think that marriage is sacred. This means that after the cohabitants get married, once the marriage becomes morbid, they will be more likely to decide to divorce.
marry out of responsibility
Once a man and a woman cohabit, they will receive the attention of many relatives and friends. People around them will encourage them to get married: “when are you going to get married?” At a friend’s wedding, people love to ask the cohabitant, “when will it be your turn?” These social pressures will make the lives of some cohabiting couples more tangled, so they reluctantly decide to marry, most of which are out of guilt or fear, not because of true love.
After cohabiting with a woman for several years, many men are hesitant about whether to marry each other, and feel ashamed of their cohabiting girlfriend because he takes up too much of her time – if they don’t marry her, she will only become a leftover woman who is difficult to marry off, and it will be more difficult to find a partner. While women lack control over the process of cohabitation, she will take it for granted that they are getting married step by step, but the man may only want to save rent and enjoy a companion life. Therefore, among cohabiting couples, if the man wants to get married, the chance of marriage will be greater, but the woman wants to get married.
Out of this responsibility and guilt, it is obvious that the marriage with the woman will not last long and will divorce earlier.
Cohabitation is very harmful to girls, because many people do not know their role in cohabitation. If they lack contraceptive knowledge, accidental pregnancy will increase the harm of cohabitation. Therefore, before choosing to cohabit, you must think twice.
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