We often hear women say that I love him because he is really good to me… This sentence does not seem to be wrong: he is so good to me. When I catch a cold, he will ride a bicycle across most of the city to deliver medicine to me; If I lost my mobile phone, he would buy me a new one without saying anything. He would rather eat pickled vegetables and steamed bread every day; I called him willfully in the middle of the night, and he would persist in coaxing me to sleep no matter how tired he was… How can I not love such a man?
Should she love him because he is so good to her? If the answer is yes, then for a man, as long as he is so good to a woman, who can the woman love in addition to him?
But is this the case? The essence of love is to compare who is better than who?
There will always be such a predictable day in the future: when you catch a cold, he will no longer come all the way to give you medicine, but will tell you to see a doctor; If you lose your mobile phone, he will still buy you a new one without saying a word, because at this time, this money is not important to him at all; If you call him again in the middle of the night to ask him to coax you to sleep, you will find that he never turns on his cell phone again in the middle of the night
The only thing that remains unchanged in this world is change. No one will be good to anyone all his life, so if you think he is good to you, you should love him, and the result must be your sorrow.
To please her before hunting her is a trick that men will never give up, and a trap that women will never jump out of.
Because once that woman gets used to your kindness to her, she can’t leave you anymore. She has become your prey. As for whether you will abandon the prey you have, it all depends on your mood.
It’s useless to say so much. Countless women will still be moved by men’s love for her, and men will still be tired of abandoning her and looking for the next goal after finally winning. So there are always so many sad women and so many disloyal men in the world.
Now there is a new question. If a man is so kind to a woman that she should not love him, who should she love? If it is not love to treat her well, what is love?
My friend gave a fairly good answer: love is the conquest of two people. Only conquest can maintain long-term love.
That is to say, each other must have the most unique point to let each other like, otherwise everyone in the world is different, why does love happen to you and him?
He is good to you, the other can be better to you, and the other can be better to you. How can you easily fall in love with him because of such a characteristic that can be replaced at any time? How can love be so cheap?
Here is a novel by Milan kunder, called “living elsewhere”. The poet and the male protagonist in it had the condition to fall in love with a beautiful woman, but he chose a red haired girl who was not very beautiful. The girl felt inferior and felt that she was not worthy of him. She asked, “I really don’t know what you like about me. There are so many beautiful girls around.”
He replied like this: “you have freckles on your face, red hair and a very thin figure. These are the reasons why I love you.” The red haired girl burst into tears. I love you, so I know every shortcoming better than you. Of course, I love your advantages more.
It’s a pity that most women can’t understand such profound love. They are often lost in the sweet words of men, in the vanity of vows, and can’t see the true face of love clearly.
Sometimes love is beautiful, and sometimes love is realistic.
I think the really mature love is: if you catch a cold, if I’m around you, I’ll take good care of you. If I’m far away from you, I’ll tell you to see a doctor instead of coming to see you regardless. It’s not that I don’t care about you, but that it’s just a cold. We should all learn to take care of ourselves when each other is away;
Your mobile phone is lost. If I have no money, I will give you my mobile phone. I use my old mobile phone myself. It is not that I am reluctant to spend money for you, but that I want to make better plans for our future. If I have money, I will buy you a new mobile phone without hesitation. I care about your mood when I have no money, and I care about your mood when I have money; You call me in the middle of the night. No matter how tired I am, I will try my best to coax you to sleep, but sometimes I will tell you in advance that I can’t call because there are important things tomorrow
I will not be reckless to you, but you will always be the person who gives the most in my life.
Then, what kind of people will have mature love? What kind of men and women will know that they should love each other when they meet, be compatible when they get along, miss each other when they are apart, and depend on each other when they are together?
The world of mortals is too complicated for men and women, and there is basically no answer to this question. But it reminds me of something I have seen before.
There is an old saying that boys are poor and girls are rich. It means that boys can’t give him too good a growing environment. They should let him endure hardships, suffer grievances and experience hardships. Only when he grows up can he understand tenacity, learn to be strong, understand responsibilities and stand on his own.
Girls, on the other hand, should pamper and pamper her like a princess no matter how poor the conditions are. Only when she grows up can she understand self-esteem and self-love, be immune to other people’s love, understand the pride of being a woman, be able to distinguish the happiness she really wants, not be easily tempted by others’ kindness to her, and not be so easily hurt by love.
If, on the other hand, boys are rich and girls are poor, the end can be imagined.
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