about communication
1. I can’t remember what you said.
“Honey, remember to put down the toilet seat after going to the toilet.”—— I said it more than 1000 times
“Honey, remember to put the dirty clothes you don’t wear directly in the washing machine.”—— I said it more than 1000 times
“Honey, put the used things back in their original places.”—— I said it more than 1000 times
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And so on. Why can’t men remember what you said more than 1000 times?
Man’s defense: these things are too gross to remember!
Tip: since he can’t remember you, don’t worry too much. When you go to the toilet and find that the toilet seat hasn’t been put down, let him come and help you put it down. When washing clothes, ask him to hand in the dirty clothes by himself. If he doesn’t, please wait for the next time. If you can’t find something, let him find it for you, so that he will feel that it is king to remember your instructions!
2. The text messages sent in the past are like “Shi Shen” the sea
“When I was in love, he always texted and called me every day. Now, the messages I send him are like a stone in the ocean!”, So the woman began to wonder, “does he not love me anymore?”, “Does he have another woman?”, “He’s getting tired of me?” Wait, do you have this problem? Did you start fighting with him at this time, ignore him when he comes to you, or show him a stinky face?
Man’s defense: I can’t always get tired of you. I want to work hard for our future, earn more money, buy you a car, a house and clothes. How can I not love you?
Tips: all women are men, and all men are women + career. Dear, I believe you understand! He felt warm after reading the text message you sent, but he didn’t have time to return it. Don’t worry about such trifles. I can also tell you a little trick. Next time you want to convey your love feelings, use Weibo, because the latest psychological survey found that women will be upset if they can’t receive a reply to a text message sent, but private letters sent on Weibo won’t bring this side effect. Even if you don’t receive a reply to his private letter at the first time, you won’t have bad feelings. Instead, there is a small romance that can’t be described.
3. He makes a mistake but looks innocent.
When he did something wrong, you were angry, but he looked innocent. It seemed that he didn’t understand why you were angry. This feeling was really helpless. He was neither he nor I. At this time, women usually think that men should be worms in their own stomachs and should know what they are angry with. And a man really is not a worm in your stomach, and he really does not know what is wrong. Finally, women feel that they are too lazy to quarrel with men. Let him reflect on his mistakes and ignore him. They are sulky. Therefore, the word “vexatious” is always hanging on women’s heads.
Man’s defense: what are you angry about? Tell me what I did wrong! How can I know if you don’t tell me?
Tips: men and women have different ways of thinking and habits, and need to communicate regularly to reach tacit understanding. When you feel that what he does makes you not excited, speak out directly and believe that he is willing to change. Don’t play the game of “you guess, you guess, you guess”. Men really aren’t experts in this field.
4. He never seems to hear me when I call him.
When you talk to him, does he often appear as if he can’t hear anything? In the eyes of women, this kind of behavior is simply an expression of disrespect and indifference to themselves, which is intolerable! But psychological experts say that the performance of that kind of daze is just a way for men to reduce pressure. They don’t do anything, don’t think about anything, and just silently daze. In fact, men just need a little quiet time alone. Therefore, women should no longer regard this behavior as ignoring you and coming at you. The more you force him, the more he will resist, and eventually it will become a grudge.
Man’s defense: I need an independent and quiet space to “think about life”. Please don’t disturb me at this time. I love you in my heart.
Tips: at this time, you might as well give him a quiet space, wait for him to “think” and then talk to him, or after washing, change into sexy clothes, and make a Jiao in front of his eyes, to ensure that he will recover immediately and obey your mercy!
5. Silence and cold violence after quarrel
Quarreling is a common thing between lovers. However, after quarreling, men’s silence and even their cold and violent treatment are the most unacceptable to women. In the view of men, quarreling with women is never going to gain the upper hand, so they think that instead of quarreling with women violently and tearing their faces, it’s better to keep silent and let women vent enough, and then wait for both sides to calm down for a few days, and the women’s anger will disappear. Naturally, they will be reconciled as before, which is a very time-saving and labor-saving way.
The man’s defense: it’s not that he doesn’t want to coax women after a quarrel, but that women are very difficult to coax when they are angry. It’s better to disappear for a few days, and then coax when the women’s anger subsides, or disappear for a few days to think about ways to solve the problem.
Tips: men feel that when communication between the two sides is not smooth, they should stop communication to avoid escalation of conflicts. As a smart woman, after venting, you should stop fighting with men. Playing a little game to attract them is the king’s way. For example, let him help you try whether the beef you are cooking is salty enough.
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