Parents’ attitudes have a certain impact on their children’s discussion of marriage. Both men and women should try to make a good impression on each other’s parents in the process of communication. The latest article in the times of India on November 13 summarized “8 reminders to see elders”. It is worth reading by young men and women.
1. Dress appropriately first impressions may not be final, but they do produce lasting memories. When meeting each other’s parents, clothes should not be too sexy or fancy as when both parties are dating. It is better to choose relatively formal clothes. Of course, don’t wear too formal. A shirt with jeans is simple and fashionable, which is a good choice.
2. Bring gifts it’s better not to see each other’s parents empty handed for the first time. A suitable gift is actually a way to show respect to each other’s parents. You can choose a gift that your parents need or need together with your friends. Don’t choose gifts that are too expensive or too beautiful. Gifts should be given in a concise and practical manner to avoid the “sense of bribery”.
3. Be fully prepared the purpose of the first visit to the parents of the other party is to win the favor of the elderly. Take the attitude of job interview and do your homework. If possible, learn as much about each other’s parents as possible, understand each other’s “family culture”, and ask the object what his or her parents like or dislike. These preparations help to communicate with each other’s parents more smoothly.
4. Be good at listening after the small talk, listen to the arrangement of the other party’s parents and listen to them speak first. Avoid being “too enthusiastic” or “too formal”. After that, tell your parents about yourself. Before that, it’s better to “rehearse” with your male (female) friend how to talk with their elders.
5. Don’t scold the object when you meet the elders of the other party, your male (female) friend is most likely to be the main topic. But don’t dig into some of your partner’s private stories in front of their parents. The parents of the other Party expect to stop talking about their children, which is also respect for your male (female) friends.
6. Don’t be a “know it all” it’s good that you may know everything about your male (female) friends’ preferences for clothing color and food taste, but it’s not good if you keep talking in front of each other’s parents. You know, they know more about their children than you do. Every family has a strong sense of self-protection. If you really love each other, they will feel as if they have been with you for many years.
7. Avoid intimacy when sitting with a man (friend), you should avoid holding hands and hugging. Of course, the parents of the other party know that you are in love, but in front of your elders, you should maintain elegance and decency, and never “show off” intimacy.
8. Don’t care too much about the topic of your ex boyfriend (girlfriend) during the conversation, you may sometimes mention your target’s former male (female) friend. Don’t be too concerned at this time. After all, this is his (her) past. You can laugh it off and simply change the topic. Your partner and parents will like you more because of your generosity.
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