he suddenly stopped being jealous.
Xiangling found herself suddenly free, and she was a bit at a loss in the face of this freedom. In the past, her husband looked closely at her, and there was no way. Who let Xiangling be the school flower. At the beginning, my husband fought off countless wild bees, waves and butterflies before he became the master of famous flowers. Even after marriage, he would always be careful to guard against those who did not give up. Even when Xiangling participated in the company’s entertainment, he would come to pick up Xiangling home.
In fact, Xiangling knows that he wants to see if there are suspicious people by the way. But this time with the classmates, my husband not only let me go happily, but also didn’t ask me any questions afterwards, which made Xiangling feel empty when she was ready.
A few days later, she tried to ask for leave, saying that some friends wanted to go to karaoke in the evening, and also specifically pointed out that so and so who chased her in those years would go with her. My husband just said hello in a faint voice, and there was no phone call during the period. By the time she got home, he was already snoring.
Expert analysis:
1. If he has not taken too obvious actions, then perhaps this is only the initial stage of cheating, and there is room for redemption;
2. Men’s change of heart often starts from women’s neglect of themselves. No matter how exuberant the flame is, if it never adds firewood, it will always burn out, so it’s best to review whether they really cool each other on weekdays;
3. Sometimes a man’s heart is like a child. It takes a little effort to coax him to be interested in you forever, but if you love him, it’s worth it.
he lost his passion for your body.
When Han Qing was woken up by the phone, it was 3 o’clock in the morning. Yan’er’s voice was bleak and weak, telling her about Zuo Xu’s Indifference: “we haven’t had sex for a long time. He always pushes me away. No matter what way I use, I can’t arouse his enthusiasm. I think he must be out there.” Why? The three of them are college classmates. Han Qing knows Zuo Xu well. He is not a fickle person. Han Qing decides to talk to Zuo Xu.
After repeated questioning by Han Qing, Zuo Xu finally admitted that this was the truth. Because Yaner’s body is so familiar to him that he can touch every spot on it with his eyes closed. He really has no passion. On the contrary, because of his business recently, he often accompanies his clients to nightclubs. The waitresses there are dressed in revealing clothes and have a provocative figure, which makes him often angry. Zuo Xu admitted that these new sexy symbols had a great impact on him. If it wasn’t for his feelings for Yan’er, he might have lost control of them long ago.
After hearing Han Qing’s story, Yan’er burst into a cold sweat, but calm down and think about it. In fact, he is not! Holding Zuo Xu’s strong back every night, when did you have the initial excitement and impulse? On the contrary, one time in the elevator of the unit, she was close to the male supervisor who was very strong, which made her blush and heartbeat. But she is very clear that this does not mean anything. She loves Zuo Xu. At least so far, it has not changed.
Expert analysis:
1. This phenomenon is not surprising among couples who have been married for many years. Between men and women, sexual attraction will not always be fresh and exciting. When passion returns to bland and sexual behavior is used to, some new sexy symbols may impact one of them;
2. Fortunately, the two sides still love each other, and this impact has not caused any substantial harm to either side, which belongs to the scope of repair and improvement, but this is already a dangerous signal, which needs to be attached great importance by both parties;
3. The crux of this “aesthetic fatigue” lies in blandness. You can try to change your personal image and bedroom environment, and try to add new elements to your life; You can also consult sex experts to add novel and exciting ways to your sex life.
he suddenly became a powder keg.
Zhushan thought that the war between two people would only happen once. Unexpectedly, the second world war between her and her cohabiting boyfriend was less than three years apart, and this time, he was completely groundless and deliberately picking quarrels.
One day at dinner, Zhushan was so happy that she put one foot on a chair and talked about trivial things while eating. After a while, she found that something was wrong. Her boyfriend said nothing, frowned in a tic tac toe, and glanced at her knee that almost touched her chin from time to time. Her eyes showed her rare impatience and disgust. She thought for a long time before coming up with the word, and understood why she said at that time: “what’s wrong with you? You’re sick!”
Similar language is pediatrics to them. In the past, such seemingly derogatory words implied unspeakable intimacy. But this time, the boyfriend’s response was: “I’m sick? Look at your virtue! You still let people eat!” The war was so hasty and unprepared. As a result, all the dishes on the table were moved and kissed the marble floor.
This is just the beginning. Zhushan said, “I think he’s deliberately picking on me. I’m still the same as I used to be, but he doesn’t like me anymore. He’s picky about everything and always gets angry.” It wasn’t until one day that the woman called home that Zhushan suddenly realized.
Expert analysis:
1. When a man suddenly becomes a powder keg, nine times out of ten, his emotional trajectory has turned another way;
2. Men’s betrayal can be divided into different types in terms of degree and level. Some people think of affection and are unwilling to go too far; Some people don’t care about old feelings at all, but just want to end everything quickly and clear the way for new feelings. At this time, their words and deeds will be super manic, and even irrationally hurt each other’s body and mind. Deliberately picking quarrels and fighting belong to this category. Therefore, when a man has such words and deeds, it is mostly a prelude to choosing to leave you.
3. Think about yourself. Do you still love him? Love is irrational, but your actions to restore love should be rational. The more angry the other party is, the more calm you have to be. Bring his unspeakable truth to the table for communication. According to Laozi’s truth – the world is weak against the world. Maybe you can win;
4. If you confirm that he has left you from soul to body, then the smartest way is to let him go.
when answering the phone, you suddenly feel very affectionate.
For a while, Lingling suspected that her boyfriend was unfaithful. The frequency of dating is not as high as before. In the past, he made three or four calls a day, but now it takes three or four days to make a call. He even forgot Lingling’s birthday.
Lingling was unhappy and called to question him. But at the other end of the phone, he swore and swore with great earnestness, “how can it be? I have you in my heart, and I miss you all the time. I swear, I only love you…” but with a woman’s intuition, Lingling could feel that his words lacked sincerity.
Lingling is very ambivalent. She doesn’t know how to retain this feeling. On the other hand, her self-esteem can not tolerate her boyfriend’s emotional betrayal. Should we let nature take its course or cut the mess with a sharp knife?
Expert analysis:
1. His attitude has suddenly become particularly affectionate, which is likely to cover up a certain emotion in his heart. Although it is difficult to judge whether he has cheated on her just by this, it is a signal that deserves attention.
2. If your judgment is confirmed by careful observation, don’t rush into action. He can still show intimacy to you, even if he pretends it, it at least shows that he still cares about you. Maybe he is in contradiction at the moment and it is difficult to choose. If you take extreme actions at the moment and make him resentful, it will only accelerate the disappearance of your emotions;
3. At this time, it is most appropriate for you to adopt the “gentle strategy” and take care of him as always. You can even design some romantic and warm scenes that surprise him and suit his taste to increase the weight of your side in his scale.
4. Anyone will choose the best and most suitable woman as their lifelong partner. Your “task” is to make yourself the best.
eyes wander and dodge
Viah found that her husband had changed recently, but she said she didn’t know exactly where the change was. She just found that he was always avoiding her eyes based on her intuition. It wasn’t like this before. Her husband’s eyes were always so focused and warm. Even if they were sitting on the sofa watching TV, he would stare at her occasionally. He even stared at viah a little uncomfortable and said coyly, “why do you always stare at others? I can’t be more beautiful than the people on TV!” But now, even if viah wants to say something sweet to him, he just looks around and responds casually. Viah felt that there seemed to be a “ghost” behind his flashing eyes.
Expert analysis:
1. As the saying goes, the eyes are the windows of the soul, and when the eyes are fixed, the heart is fixed; If your eyes wander, your heart will move. If lovers treat each other honestly, there is certainly no need to dodge the sincere eyes from each other; Otherwise, it is a dangerous signal;
2. However, just dodging eyes is not enough to judge that the other party’s feelings are derailed. Via should pay more attention to other aspects of her husband. Usually, a man with “devious intentions” will be careful. A careful wife can certainly observe other abnormal actions of the other party.
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